Thursday, February 17, 2011

Here's A Tip For The Fellas, Too!

If your girl is a Rules Girl then she will have a great head shot that honestly despicts her best features and a quick but sweet bio. She will not have filled out all the questions, but you will know her most pertinent details right up front: age, location, profession. It is important to note that if a goodlooking woman has posted her pic on the internet, then she will be receiving an enormous amount of traffic. Personally, I average 17 messages a day. Younger girls may get more. Therefore you need to stand out.

The way a man stands out with women is by making a good first impression. This does not mean being a great guy to other guys. You need to change your priorities for your intended audience (i.e. women). If she seems like a woman you would like to get to know, the here are a few failsafe tips on how to get her attention and score a date for Saturday night.

1. Post a smiling photo
Do not expect a response if you do not have a photo.
Do not post a photo of any part of you that is naked.
Do not post a photo of you in sunglasses, or with a bunch of guyfriends on vacation (I find myself asking, Which one is he?).
For all you military men: Remove your weapon from the shot. Men in uniform are always very handsome but weapons are not romantic or appropriate for an initial photo exchange. Most importantly, do not send a photo of you and another girl - and scratching the face out is even creepier - or a child (too much too soon). The absolute best photos are relaxed shots from weddings with a drink in your hand, or with a pet dog. Your relaxed confidence comes out very cleary in these shots and those are the most attractive.

2. Read her profile. it may be brief but she will likely be clear on how she prefers to meet.
A Rules girl is looking to have a quick drinks date, known as Date Zero. This is not dinner. It's 60 mintures to determine if you would like to follow through with dinner. This will also separate you from the thousands of copy and paste emails that read "Hi. Email me if interested"

3. Get to the point
If you intend to meet this woman in real life, then say that in the first message, otherwise be prepare to be deleted.
See how quickly I got the point?
Keep your messages short and sweet. Keep your personal issues or problems to a minimum.
No woman cares what kind of day you had if she has never met you.
You are trying to make a good first impression here. Concentrate on being interested, not interesting.

3. Do not use "hun, baby, sweetie, gorgeous, beautiful"
It shows that you are de-sensitized to how nice those words really can be. Read: It shows that you are chasing so many women, you forget their names. Even an animal can sense tone of voice and no one is fooled by this. It makes an otherwise well meaning man seem desperate or cheap. Keep it classy. Use her given name.

4. Show Up On Time
I know a man that waits for no one. He has walked out of job interviews because they did not start on time. Making people wait is a power issue, pure and simple. If she is a Rules Girl, then you planned the date; you choose the place, you picked the time. If you can't get there on time, than it is poor planning on your part, it certainly isn't the woman's problem. No one cares about traffic or that you are busy. This is romance not business and being really busy is pure vanity. So being late makes you a vain man with power issues. Not attractive.

Bonus Tip: Offer To Reschedule
If you are really late for reasons that are beyond your control (i.e. spectacular Haz-Mat accident on the freeway that is all over the news, alien invasion, etc.) then call as soon as you can and politely offer to reschedule. The begins with an apology and ends with a fully planned date. Remember, she has the option to refuse. If you are gracious, you will get out of this looking like a Champ. If you are foolish, you will attract what you are.

The important point here is she is measuring how well you deal with change and/or undue pressure. I need to emphasis that you are hoping to make a good first impression with this woman. Women know other women. This one may not ber perfect for you, but she likely knows someone who is. I know a man who takes 3 girls out every Friday and Saturday. He is close to 300 hundred pounds and drives a truck for a living but he has what most men lack, he has game. He plans dates in advance, he shows up on time, he compliments women on what they are wearing, he buys a round of drinks and he goes on with his life. His little black book is bursting, he barely has time to answer all his calls.
He is the life of the party because he makes a good first impression.

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